6 Fascinating Facts About Men Today

Men today think they have it harder than previous generations did
"On the one hand, [men] are told to be thoughtful, caring, passionate, connected, fathering types. On the other hand they're still expected to be 'macho'," explained William Pollack, PhD, the founding director and president of the Centers for Men and Young Men at McLean Hospital, in Massachusetts, who cites these conflicting messages as a major stressor for guys. Another reason it's tough for men today? They often can't look to their fathers are examples of what a man should be. Pollack explains that one guy said to him, 'Why bother doing that? My father did. Now he's divorced, my mother won't talk to him, he lives by himself...and he's unhappy."

All that pressure affects their sex life
"The number one issue I deal with is low desire," said Ian Kerner, PhD, sex therapist and author of numerous books, including She Comes First. "Ten years ago, it was always women that were mainly experiencing loss of libido. Today the amount of male patients with low desire outstrips female patients." And according to Kerner, all of them attribute it to internal pressures. "They say, 'I'm under stress, I'm not feeling like myself, I'm having work problems'."

Why they're waiting to settle down
"Physically, they can wait longer to have children later on [because of] medicine," says Wes Moore, who is a youth advocate, army combat veteran, business leader, and author of the best-selling book The Other Wes Moore. But he adds that it has a lot to do with how high women set the bar for someone with husband potential. "If a woman is looking for a man that is educated and has a good job and is chivalrous and prepared to be a husband, the number of guys that you can choose from is dwindling." Basically, Wes is saying that the men who do fit the bill have the upper hand because there's less competition. "If you happen to be a man who's in this category, you can afford to say, 'You know what? Why am I getting married at twenty-five?'"

They're becoming more and more OK with women with bigger paychecks
"Young men are not particularly troubled by the idea that their partners will bring in more money. In fact, they are much more likely to hope to have a partnership where maybe you're bringing in more money this year and he's bringing in more money next year," explained Kathleen Gerson, PhD, professor of sociology at New York University and chair of the Faculty of Arts and Science Gender Equity Committee. Young men are beginning to view it as a "long distance race," she adds, meaning they're more concerned with the big picture, i.e. being able to buy a house together, rather than who contributes how much. "They see that collaboration is better than having a power struggle."

But they can still feel threatened by your success
"Women are the making the decision to be both productive and reproductive," said Lionel Tiger, PhD, professor of anthropology at Rutgers University and author of several books, including The Decline of Males. And according to him, this can be hard on men. "The productive element for the male has been taken out from under him," which can leave a guy feeling not only that he has nothing to contribute, but also that he's not needed at all.

Bromances are good for them...and you
"One thing men have learned from women is that same-gender friendships are very supportive. They're very useful and it leads to a sense of understanding," Pollack shared. He added that bromances can even have a positive effect on a guy's relationship with his girlfriend or wife because they allow men to better process their feelings and feel supported.

Summer Swimsuit trend


Sometimes it totally pays to be a bargain shopper. Two summers ago, I shopped a discount bin at the end of summer at Old Navy to find a black ruffled swimsuit. I thought it was pretty standard and black, I could wear it without a problem. And BAM! Ruffled swimsuits and bathing suits are the total craze this summer.


Take advantage of this trend! It's really forgiving in places that you're not that well endowed in, and hides things you may not be proud of. If you're less busty, like myself, a ruffled swimsuit top will add more body to the area making it appear fuller. If you are not fond of your abs or buttocks, ruffles will simply drape over those areas hiding it while adding some style. Monokinis and one pieces are very flattering and fun.

If you already have a favorite non ruffled bathing suit that you love to wear every summer, opt for a ruffled cover up. They're totally cute and girly. It's like wearing a little dress while hanging by the pool or walking along the beach. So this summer, take your style poolside with this 2010 Summer trend. Here are my top picks for all ruffled swimwear:

How to make your Husband happy



1. Beautiful Reception. After returning from work, school, travel, or whatever has separated you, begin with a good greeting

* Meet him with a cheerful face.
* Beautify and perfume yourself
* Start with good news and delay any bad news until he has rested
* Receive him with loving and yearning sentences
* Make hard efforts for excellence of the food & having it ready on time.

Office hairstyle advice


The office is a magical place. It's where all sorts of interesting people come together to learn, grow and build better businesses. Oh, who are we kidding? Work is a 9-5 (if we're lucky) grind that pays the bills so that on weekends we can live our lives with the people we love. Most of us work to live and not vice versa, so the thought of racking your brain in order to pick the perfect office hairstyle sounds about as thrilling as reading a memo about new printing practices. That's why we picked nine flawlessly polished, easy-to-do hairstyles that are perfect for your place of work. Hopefully they'll give you one less thing to think about as you're rushing out the door in the am.

While we know it sounds like more fun to find the perfect party hairstyle or the best hot date hair, now would be the time to inform you (NOT via post-it note) that, while seemingly boring, it is important to find a hairstyle that works for the office ... strike that, a hairstyle that works for YOU while you're working at the office. And one that requires minimal effort (aka takes less than 10 minutes out of your hectic morning to achieve), and keeps you feeling confident and professional until your rush hour drive home.

And though these looks are simple, they are slightly formal hairstyles. Wear them and your co-workers won't ever gossip about your bad hair choice or your hair color mishap at the water cooler. Instead they'll talk about how you kicked butt on your big presentation. With a simple twist here, a hair accessory there, these celebrity hairstyles will allow you to walk out the door with confidence every Monday thru Friday no matter what hair length or texture you have.

Also, if you don't have a job, sport these hairstyles when you want an effortless, polished look. And if you're job searching, these looks can work for you too -- but consult these tips on how to look hirable first.

Celebs inspiring these office looks: Elizabeth Banks, Roxy Olin, Jada Pinkett Smith, Michelle Williams, Alicia Keys, Kristen Bell, Kate Beckinsale, Debra Messing, and January Jones.

Summer Beauty Tips




Summer is a great time for relaxation, recreation and renewal. If you're like most of us, you probably take advantage of the longer days and warm weather to enjoy extra time with family and friends. While enjoying the hot, lazy days of summer, keep in mind that different beauty rules apply. Here are a few tips to keep you looking as good as you feel:
Summer Hair Care

Which perfume suits your personality?


A good perfume or cologne might prove heavy on the pocket. But it gives the best value for money compared to other packaged fragrances like deodorants, body sprays and eau de cologne.

First, they have the longest staying power. Just a whiff is enough to keep you smelling great for hours.

They also lend relief when you are crammed in public transport system!

"I find myself clambering for just a whiff of Dior's Dunes or Carrera, so that the fragrance can overpower less enchanting bodily odours," says Shirish, a collegian who braves the Mumbai local trains every day, and is saving up for his first bottle of cologne.

When We Two Parted by Lord Byron


When we two parted
In silence and tears,
Half broken-hearted,
To sever for years,
Pale grew thy cheek and cold,
Colder thy kiss;
Truly that hour foretold
Sorrow to this.

Boyfriend Birthday Gift Ideas


Being completely in love with your boyfriends, check out the following list of jovial and witty ideas of birthday gifts.

* The best gift ideas at the moment consist of various types of Valentines Day gifts, electrical and gadget items like a mini retro fridge, shower radio, walkie talky watches, digital watches with night vision, digital cameras, beautiful crystal ashtrays, a new mobile with blue tooth technology, a new home theatre and DVD player.

Your boyfreind's horoscope


Aries
Aries is representative of verve and energy and while many may associate a ‘me first’ attitude with Ariens, the truth is quite different from this. The ‘me first’ refers primarily to their competitiveness and their desire to be at the top of the world. Of course, the selfish aspect of their personality is true to some extent, but it can be controlled. They are known to be highly simple and straight-forward in their dealings. This is the secret behind the amazing clarity that they seem to possess regarding everyday life.

5 WAYS TO MAKE HIM YOURS

NUMBER ONE

Keep away from (his) taboo subjects. At the getting-to-know-each-other stage, certain phrases should be erased from your vocabulary, like “baby”, “wedding”, “mother”, “ex-boyfriend” and “where shall we go for a holiday next year?” If the commitment part of his brain has a smoke alarm, these subjects would set it off every time. Only when you’re absolutely sure he’s fallen for you, can you be normal and use these words liberally. In fact, during those first weeks of heady bliss, he might even use them himself. Enjoy it. It won’t last long.


How to discipline your one year old child?




How do you keep a 1-year-old from heading toward the DVD player? What should you do when your preschooler throws a fit? How can you get a teenager to respect your authority?

Whatever the age of your child, it's important to be consistent when it comes to discipline. If parents don't stick to the rules and consequences they set up, their kids aren't likely to either.

Summer Steps for Healthy Living


In the warmer, longer, lazier days of summer, the living may not be easy, but your life probably feels less chaotic. Even adults tend to adopt a "school's out!" attitude in summer. That's why this is a perfect time to improve your health in a fashion so seasonally laid back you'll barely notice the effort.

To get you started, WebMD went to eight health experts in fields such as diet, fitness, stressstress, vision, and oral health. We asked them this: If you could only suggest one simple change this season to boost personal health, what would it be? Here are their top eight tips.
1. Give Your Diet a Berry Boost

If you do one thing this summer to improve your diet, have a cup of mixed fresh berries -- blackberries, blueberries, or strawberries -- every day. They'll help you load up on antioxidants, which may help prevent damage to tissues and reduce the risks of age-related illnesses. Blueberries and blackberries are especially antioxidant-rich.

Perfect wife??



This was taken from Helen B. Andelin's Fascinating Womanhood, published by Pacific Press in 1965. The course was designed to teach women how to be happy in marriage.

GET YOUR WORK DONE
Plan your tasks with an eye on the clock. Finish or interrupt them an hour before he is expected. Your anguished cry, "Are you home already?" is not exactly a warm welcome.


How to do your make-up

You look good. It has to be true -- your mother tells you so all the time. But her completely unbiased opinion aside, who's to say that you couldn't look even better?

There are many ways to improve your "look." You can get a new dress, new shoes, new nose, lose weight, gain weight, or visit a monk and get your soul cleansed. But these methods all involve time, money, or delayed gratification. You want to look prettier NOW, and for FREE, dammit! Well, that may be a tad unrealistic, but there is a way to improve your general appearance in a couple of minutes and at a relatively low cost: improve the way you slap on that makeup.

With powder puff in hand, we're here to guide you through the sometimes glamorous, sometimes complicated world of makeup. We'll show you what to buy, how to put it on, and even how to take it all off when the day is done. And we've included some cool makeup tips for all you already makeup-savvy gals, too.

Lets prepare for marriage


Talk about what kind of home you'd like and where, and the division of chores. Include conversations on how leisure time is spent and how you like to vacation. Discuss any health concerns you have about yourself or your future spouse.

Discuss financials--whether you'll have joint or separate bank accounts, your combined salaries, investments, preparing a budget and who will handle the bills. If you have charities important to you, discuss what you'd like to continue to donate to and how much.

5 important questions about marriage


Question #1 - - Children


Sometimes love just isn't enough to keep a couple together.

So often on the Marriage Forums, a person will share an issue in a marriage that is an obvious deal breaker. When asked if the issue was discussed prior to getting married, the answer is often "no."

Don't make that mistake. Don't get married without knowing your future spouse's thoughts on these issues that can kill a marriage.

Compromise is usually not an option if the two of you disagree on these issues that can be deal breakers.