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6 Fascinating Facts About Men Today

Men today think they have it harder than previous generations did
"On the one hand, [men] are told to be thoughtful, caring, passionate, connected, fathering types. On the other hand they're still expected to be 'macho'," explained William Pollack, PhD, the founding director and president of the Centers for Men and Young Men at McLean Hospital, in Massachusetts, who cites these conflicting messages as a major stressor for guys. Another reason it's tough for men today? They often can't look to their fathers are examples of what a man should be. Pollack explains that one guy said to him, 'Why bother doing that? My father did. Now he's divorced, my mother won't talk to him, he lives by himself...and he's unhappy."

All that pressure affects their sex life
"The number one issue I deal with is low desire," said Ian Kerner, PhD, sex therapist and author of numerous books, including She Comes First. "Ten years ago, it was always women that were mainly experiencing loss of libido. Today the amount of male patients with low desire outstrips female patients." And according to Kerner, all of them attribute it to internal pressures. "They say, 'I'm under stress, I'm not feeling like myself, I'm having work problems'."

Why they're waiting to settle down
"Physically, they can wait longer to have children later on [because of] medicine," says Wes Moore, who is a youth advocate, army combat veteran, business leader, and author of the best-selling book The Other Wes Moore. But he adds that it has a lot to do with how high women set the bar for someone with husband potential. "If a woman is looking for a man that is educated and has a good job and is chivalrous and prepared to be a husband, the number of guys that you can choose from is dwindling." Basically, Wes is saying that the men who do fit the bill have the upper hand because there's less competition. "If you happen to be a man who's in this category, you can afford to say, 'You know what? Why am I getting married at twenty-five?'"

They're becoming more and more OK with women with bigger paychecks
"Young men are not particularly troubled by the idea that their partners will bring in more money. In fact, they are much more likely to hope to have a partnership where maybe you're bringing in more money this year and he's bringing in more money next year," explained Kathleen Gerson, PhD, professor of sociology at New York University and chair of the Faculty of Arts and Science Gender Equity Committee. Young men are beginning to view it as a "long distance race," she adds, meaning they're more concerned with the big picture, i.e. being able to buy a house together, rather than who contributes how much. "They see that collaboration is better than having a power struggle."

But they can still feel threatened by your success
"Women are the making the decision to be both productive and reproductive," said Lionel Tiger, PhD, professor of anthropology at Rutgers University and author of several books, including The Decline of Males. And according to him, this can be hard on men. "The productive element for the male has been taken out from under him," which can leave a guy feeling not only that he has nothing to contribute, but also that he's not needed at all.

Bromances are good for them...and you
"One thing men have learned from women is that same-gender friendships are very supportive. They're very useful and it leads to a sense of understanding," Pollack shared. He added that bromances can even have a positive effect on a guy's relationship with his girlfriend or wife because they allow men to better process their feelings and feel supported.

Summer Swimsuit trend

Sometimes it totally pays to be a bargain shopper. Two summers ago, I shopped a discount bin at the end of summer at Old Navy to find a black ruffled swimsuit. I thought it was pretty standard and black, I could wear it without a problem. And BAM! Ruffled swimsuits and bathing suits are the total craze this summer.


Take advantage of this trend! It's really forgiving in places that you're not that well endowed in, and hides things you may not be proud of. If you're less busty, like myself, a ruffled swimsuit top will add more body to the area making it appear fuller. If you are not fond of your abs or buttocks, ruffles will simply drape over those areas hiding it while adding some style. Monokinis and one pieces are very flattering and fun.

If you already have a favorite non ruffled bathing suit that you love to wear every summer, opt for a ruffled cover up. They're totally cute and girly. It's like wearing a little dress while hanging by the pool or walking along the beach. So this summer, take your style poolside with this 2010 Summer trend. Here are my top picks for all ruffled swimwear:

How to make your Husband happy

1. Beautiful Reception. After returning from work, school, travel, or whatever has separated you, begin with a good greeting

* Meet him with a cheerful face.
* Beautify and perfume yourself
* Start with good news and delay any bad news until he has rested
* Receive him with loving and yearning sentences
* Make hard efforts for excellence of the food & having it ready on time.